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Shopping-therapy for women or as it is better to calm nerves

Shopping-therapy for women or as it is better to calm nerves

Not today it is noticed, that passion to do purchases – completely not comic passion. It so it is sweet adheres to itself so encourages and recovers, heals our sincere wounds as if wonderful balm …

Recollect: you have quarrelled with бойфрендом your dream (the husband; the malicious chief; the best girlfriend) and casually feet have brought you in shopping centre. At first you simply wanted is sad to consider the world, have then decided something to try on. Not to buy - Perish the thought! – only to try on! From there is nothing to do or to be convinced, that your figure at all your misfortunes will give hundred points of odds to the best girlfriend …
 
In general, it is not important as well as that, but there were you shop the happy, covered purchases and with almost nulled bank card or considerably become empty purse. Now, having come back home, at you two exits – to continue to rejoice lives trying on new things, or undertaken a head to sit down in the middle of all this magnificence and to indulge in a remorse. What it is more preferable?

The average Soviet woman simply would die of happiness and fear simultaneously. Considering many business factors of our time to divide feelings of the modern woman into a negative and a positive too it is impossible. Far not all presume to themselves weight of not planned expenditure, however absence of money at all does not speak about absence of desire to do purchases! In such cases, probably, it is expedient to save money then to buy that is necessary. And to try to earn still! Because to do purchases, it appears, it is very useful!

American sociologists were not too lazy to carry out research among women, preliminary having learnt them to write down in detail everything, as to monetary expenditure: how many time they have visited shop for certain time, how many money has spent all and for each campaign separately. Results have personally liked me!

Buy, and you will be eternally young!


Researches have established:

1. Women whom 17 hours per week or went shopping more and spent over 200 dollars for a campaign, have appeared more harmonously, more strongly and much more fine women who did purchases less often and spent it is less.

2. Inveterate visitors of shops have less than wrinkles, they look more youngly, at them above power level and they feel younger than the years.

3. A considerable part of lovers of shopping are very assured of itself and extremely seldom suffer depression.

In Stockholm too were not lazy, gave talks and interrogations of visitors of shops and here that is revealed at the Swede:

1. The women buying clothes, feel better, than those who gets kitchen utensils or household goods.

2. The mood of the women making of some "jogs" on shops within week is better, than at those who "comes off" to the full extent once a week.

3. Oddly lovers «to buy something and it is more», have bypassed more modest girlfriends in such point, as self-esteem.

Conclusions of researches only at first sight surprise. Each of us on personal experience perfectly knows, how fine raises mood successful purchase! As there are forces and new ideas when you have possibility to buy that you want. As self-estimation level when, strolling on very expensive shop, you understand, that to you right now on a pocket … well, at least one thing from here creeps upwards! And for a long time already it is not necessary for anybody to prove, that it is absolutely impossible to feel happy if to you it is uncomfortable in shops …

Not having possibility long time to buy what very much it would be desirable, it is possible to appear near to depression. After all psychologists mark direct dependence of mood, state of health and self-esteem on our financial possibilities.

It is put in pawn in us forever
Even men-psychologists seriously say that the female habit to buy not very necessary things, («барахло», on expression of our husbands) is only the genetic program of responsibility for a family: subconsciously we aspire to have in the house as much as possible things "for emergency", «on вырост», "just in case".

So the ringlet bought by you on a strange sincere impulse, probably also is not that other, as not realised care of the future: suddenly in a lean year it is an ornament you successfully will pawn and buy a bread stock on all family?! If will be on a visit at the grandmothers, check up presence of salt, matches, a flour and sugar. I assure, any stock is and now! And it not nonsense, and the rule developed for the previous centuries. After all in memory of mankind - weight of economic crashes, wars and the hunger periods. The strongest survived and «запасливейшие».

Women aspired to keep the family centre for what "thriftiness" was simply necessary, thriftiness. If physicians assert, that our strange ability to accumulate superfluous kgs in the field of a stomach and hips – not that other, as genetic care of an organism of that in case of pregnancy the woman and its fruit were not lost for hunger – that then to speak about purchases! Therefore we also feel happy in a role of customers – накопительниц.

And if it is illness?!
The passion to purchases can become the present illness when it passes reasonable limits. Not without reason in ancient India the feeling of a measure was considered as the same virtue, as kindness or modesty. Absence of feeling of a measure in purchases can become a serious problem. Besides, "fall ill" with passion to purchases not only very rich people. Before illness, as they say, all are equal. And not only in a casino often lose the money occupied the day before under percent! "Diseased" can sympathise only - to treat from «шопингомании» at us have not learnt yet. Though any psychologist of an average hand will prompt some councils:

It is more difficult to be kept in the big supermarkets from unnecessary purchases. Therefore it is better to buy all in small shops: products – in grocery, clothes – in a tiny boutique.

1. Not to take with itself the big sum of money and a credit card.

2. To write down the made expenditure.

3. To assign duties of "purchaser" to other member of a family.

However, it is the most interesting to start to save money for any mad project. That for you it was while is absolutely inaccessible, but is very attractive!

Magic of a new thing
If you are in questions of shopping on an opposite pole – seldom and with a reluctance visit shops, hate vanity of trading numbers, at you the head in supermarkets and shopping centres breaks is too an extreme measure. Probably, once you "have overdone", so now it would not be desirable to do purchases at all. And after all buying, we receive positive emotions.

For example, each person tested on itself magic force of a new thing: it when having put on a new suit, you start to feel a little differently. More confidently, more attractively, better. Even «the Gentleman of good luck» Федя the Plait dreamt about new «a suit with outflow». The new thing always bears in itself pleasure of changes. And if it it is valid to the person if associates do compliments are a dope for mental health, self-trust pledge. So – and good mood, fine state of health. Therefore absolutely seriously psychologists advise to us to do new hairdresses, to update clothes or to change a house interior. After all the new thing will necessarily bring positive emotions and … will fill up stocks!