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How to prolong long-awaited holiday?
As long we wait for it. As we anticipate. As warms us thought, that here it is a little more, and there we will sleep off, will be developed, we will inhale. Yes, to us it is now heavy, but here it - light in the end of a tunnel, we it is obligatory to it we will reach, we will crawl, доскребемся, And there, behind that limit, behind line — freedom, rest, the days devoted to, to the whims, and pleasures.
They not a myth, they a reality, they indeed come — prompt days of holiday. But all comes to an end. We come back home fresh, suntanned, vigorous. And all seems to us, that on the same lifting, that a life around, carefree such, and we is dashing fly in everyday life in a cloud light and a net energy. And there...
And there all comes to an end in three days. With непривычки it seems to us, that affairs lean, that during absence has increased problems. It not so. All remains former, you have changed, both outwardly, and internally. And have changed to the best. We thought how to keep this holiday condition? Consulted on psychologists. And now we know it it is possible at observance of some rules.
The first and main rule: it is not necessary to divide the life, so, and the condition, into "holiday" and «неотпуск». Try to pull together as much as possible holiday and working modes that there were no sharp differences between pressure and a crazy relaxation. If you played rest in tennis or were engaged in gymnastics every day for two hours, continue to be engaged same and after arrival. The same concerns and the pedestrian walks. Be not afraid to snatch superfluous time at work, it indeed anywhere from you will not get to, and here you quite can get to somewhere from excessive congestion with affairs.
When you come back from holiday freshened up and looked younger, not all green associates for weariness rejoice to your kind. They can and not give themselves the report in the feelings, but their spiteful emotions and not realised envy — one of the reasons such fast улетучивания yours послеотпускных forces. That involuntary envy of associates did not eat you with giblets, try to kindle its universal benevolence and cheerfulness — having typed by sincere forces on coast of the seas and oceans, you quite in a condition to do it. For this purpose it is necessary to look at the relatives and colleagues as on new, as though people unknown to you hitherto, but undoubtedly good. And then any malevolence will be kindled: time you have not answered it — means, process has stopped.
One of the most known ways to keep force after holiday — to support in itself holiday sensations: recollect more often the pleasant moments, but do not live them, do not grieve for them, and only cause with their help those positive emotions which you tested during rest. They will help you to cope with affairs is much easier and faster than if you day and night strainedly and with animal gravity tried to be in time all.
Do not pay excessive attention and to small troubles, absolutely the same as you did it during rest, is very effective way to keep the got forces. After all in holiday any unpleasant trifles irritate you incomparably less. The reason is simple: you hardly probable not devote all time to yourselves, to the pleasures, is shorter — love yourself more than the usual. Accordingly, большее quantity of love extend and on associates. Recollect, after all when you have pushed in a bar of hotel or have attacked a foot on a beach, you have simply radiantly smiled and have assured "offender", that «it's O.K.». And any problems. And so, this antistressful reception perfectly works and in more serious cases.
But it is final, of course, we know, that there are situations at which similar recommendations are perceived as mockery. For example, having returned from rest, you learn, that your business collapses. Or your husband is full jealousy of your pleasant pastime. Then write down more practical and "technical" ways. We dictate.
The first. We have got used to meet troubles, having collected will in a fist, having strained all body and spirit so that they, unusable, have broken about our breast. And so, it to do it is not necessary. Recollect Сталкера: «Weakness and softness is a life sign, force and rigidity is a death sign». To meet stress better being absolutely weakened — as мышечно, and it is sincere. Turn for some time to a rag, a skin from itself, an amoeba, at last. And then the negative charges directed on you will pass through (after all nothing interferes with them), leave and will go to itself further. But you to it will already not have the relation. We do not joke.
The second. To have possibility to influence a situation, it is necessary to keep internal calmness. It can be made, say, so: present, that all occurs not in a real life, and on the screen, and you not the participant of a situation, but only the spectator. There, on the screen something occurs, someone shouts at someone, someone speaks someone mucks, but after all all it at cinema, to you this what relation has? "Picturizing" an unpleasant situation, you thus postpone it from yourselves. And the further the screen, the отстраненнее you perceive events, the less they influence you.
And it is possible to arrive on the contrary. Represent the person who speaks you unpleasant things, a part of. After all when we argue in a shower with ourselves, frequently using foul language, we do not take offence at ourselves. The same effect at you will turn out here again if to present itself and the person clashing with you to single whole.
The third. If you follow our wonderful recommendations and despite it feel, that the pulled hard problems are too heavy, try to make the following: feel this weight on the shoulders, test physically as presses on you, bending down to the earth, this firm and angular block, will feel its putrefactive smell... And when becomes absolutely unbearable — be sharply unbent and dump it, hear, as it has roared at you behind the back. Do it some times. If and after that you tell, that it became easier not, forgive, we to you will not believe.
Psychologists explain: we so sharply perceive stress because feel internal "I" (to a shower that is) or in a head, or still somewhere. To protect it from stresses, it is necessary to place it in the reliable place, namely - in the centre located around a solar plexus is unique. We operate as follows: we define, in which part of a body we feel the "I". We find, we concentrate it in the field of the respiratory centre. Then we translate it in a solar plexus and there we leave. Thus yours "I" (and you together with it) will be protected not worse the captain of a submarine who sees and hears, that is created on a surface, and thus remains invisible.
Now about appearance. The most part our good послеотпускного moods is connected by that we look well. All in our hands and to keep a human kind it is possible for a long time, even for ever. Ways are simple to the ridiculous. The sea replace with pool, sunburn can be supported in a sun deck. In the first week after arrival it is necessary to use very fat creams — water and the sun have too dried your skin. The weekly phytosauna or an aromatic bath where the camomile combination is optimum, чистотела and чабреца will not prevent also. Necessarily walk (for dog lovers it not a problem), and in general move as much as possible. Anything new, the truth?
But the main thing — remember: present you are that suntanned, sports, lovely and cheerful pretty girl whom you were in holiday. Yes, yes, it also is you, simply be afraid to believe in it. Such also remain, such you and love.
And there all comes to an end in three days. With непривычки it seems to us, that affairs lean, that during absence has increased problems. It not so. All remains former, you have changed, both outwardly, and internally. And have changed to the best. We thought how to keep this holiday condition? Consulted on psychologists. And now we know it it is possible at observance of some rules.
The first and main rule: it is not necessary to divide the life, so, and the condition, into "holiday" and «неотпуск». Try to pull together as much as possible holiday and working modes that there were no sharp differences between pressure and a crazy relaxation. If you played rest in tennis or were engaged in gymnastics every day for two hours, continue to be engaged same and after arrival. The same concerns and the pedestrian walks. Be not afraid to snatch superfluous time at work, it indeed anywhere from you will not get to, and here you quite can get to somewhere from excessive congestion with affairs.
When you come back from holiday freshened up and looked younger, not all green associates for weariness rejoice to your kind. They can and not give themselves the report in the feelings, but their spiteful emotions and not realised envy — one of the reasons such fast улетучивания yours послеотпускных forces. That involuntary envy of associates did not eat you with giblets, try to kindle its universal benevolence and cheerfulness — having typed by sincere forces on coast of the seas and oceans, you quite in a condition to do it. For this purpose it is necessary to look at the relatives and colleagues as on new, as though people unknown to you hitherto, but undoubtedly good. And then any malevolence will be kindled: time you have not answered it — means, process has stopped.
One of the most known ways to keep force after holiday — to support in itself holiday sensations: recollect more often the pleasant moments, but do not live them, do not grieve for them, and only cause with their help those positive emotions which you tested during rest. They will help you to cope with affairs is much easier and faster than if you day and night strainedly and with animal gravity tried to be in time all.
Do not pay excessive attention and to small troubles, absolutely the same as you did it during rest, is very effective way to keep the got forces. After all in holiday any unpleasant trifles irritate you incomparably less. The reason is simple: you hardly probable not devote all time to yourselves, to the pleasures, is shorter — love yourself more than the usual. Accordingly, большее quantity of love extend and on associates. Recollect, after all when you have pushed in a bar of hotel or have attacked a foot on a beach, you have simply radiantly smiled and have assured "offender", that «it's O.K.». And any problems. And so, this antistressful reception perfectly works and in more serious cases.
But it is final, of course, we know, that there are situations at which similar recommendations are perceived as mockery. For example, having returned from rest, you learn, that your business collapses. Or your husband is full jealousy of your pleasant pastime. Then write down more practical and "technical" ways. We dictate.
The first. We have got used to meet troubles, having collected will in a fist, having strained all body and spirit so that they, unusable, have broken about our breast. And so, it to do it is not necessary. Recollect Сталкера: «Weakness and softness is a life sign, force and rigidity is a death sign». To meet stress better being absolutely weakened — as мышечно, and it is sincere. Turn for some time to a rag, a skin from itself, an amoeba, at last. And then the negative charges directed on you will pass through (after all nothing interferes with them), leave and will go to itself further. But you to it will already not have the relation. We do not joke.
The second. To have possibility to influence a situation, it is necessary to keep internal calmness. It can be made, say, so: present, that all occurs not in a real life, and on the screen, and you not the participant of a situation, but only the spectator. There, on the screen something occurs, someone shouts at someone, someone speaks someone mucks, but after all all it at cinema, to you this what relation has? "Picturizing" an unpleasant situation, you thus postpone it from yourselves. And the further the screen, the отстраненнее you perceive events, the less they influence you.
And it is possible to arrive on the contrary. Represent the person who speaks you unpleasant things, a part of. After all when we argue in a shower with ourselves, frequently using foul language, we do not take offence at ourselves. The same effect at you will turn out here again if to present itself and the person clashing with you to single whole.
The third. If you follow our wonderful recommendations and despite it feel, that the pulled hard problems are too heavy, try to make the following: feel this weight on the shoulders, test physically as presses on you, bending down to the earth, this firm and angular block, will feel its putrefactive smell... And when becomes absolutely unbearable — be sharply unbent and dump it, hear, as it has roared at you behind the back. Do it some times. If and after that you tell, that it became easier not, forgive, we to you will not believe.
Psychologists explain: we so sharply perceive stress because feel internal "I" (to a shower that is) or in a head, or still somewhere. To protect it from stresses, it is necessary to place it in the reliable place, namely - in the centre located around a solar plexus is unique. We operate as follows: we define, in which part of a body we feel the "I". We find, we concentrate it in the field of the respiratory centre. Then we translate it in a solar plexus and there we leave. Thus yours "I" (and you together with it) will be protected not worse the captain of a submarine who sees and hears, that is created on a surface, and thus remains invisible.
Now about appearance. The most part our good послеотпускного moods is connected by that we look well. All in our hands and to keep a human kind it is possible for a long time, even for ever. Ways are simple to the ridiculous. The sea replace with pool, sunburn can be supported in a sun deck. In the first week after arrival it is necessary to use very fat creams — water and the sun have too dried your skin. The weekly phytosauna or an aromatic bath where the camomile combination is optimum, чистотела and чабреца will not prevent also. Necessarily walk (for dog lovers it not a problem), and in general move as much as possible. Anything new, the truth?
But the main thing — remember: present you are that suntanned, sports, lovely and cheerful pretty girl whom you were in holiday. Yes, yes, it also is you, simply be afraid to believe in it. Such also remain, such you and love.