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Success psychology

How to achieve objects in view

Changing perception of certain objects, forming new style of thinking, we develop also the new relation to the activity. When the person starts to argue in another way, it starts and to operate in another way. Having accustomed yourselves to new thinking (in another way perceiving yourselves and the activity), you thereby change also the motivation to activity. There are some technologies, allowing to achieve high motivation the minimum efforts.

To recover pleasant memoirs

The graduate of high school Sergey has decided to find to itself worthy work. To begin with he has chosen the most simple way of search — to find in a press suitable announcements of vacancies and to call under telephone numbers specified there. Besides, he has decided to ring round all personnel agencies found in the telephone directory. Having prepared the resume, the yesterday's student was accepted to business. But it is very fast, after several unsuccessful calls, Sergey has completely lost interest to activity (as telephone conversations "were not glued"). There was a depression, feeling of feebleness, fear before new phone calls. He began to search for the reasons and excuses not to call on the phone number specified in the announcement, every day transferred "for tomorrow" calls to personnel agencies etc.

Sergey can be helped by the following psychological reception. It is called «Revival of pleasant memoirs»

1. Recollect that period of the life when to you something well managed to be made. What exactly and why so easily it was possible to you then? Why you do not manage to make something today?

2. Recollect a concrete successful episode and try to go through again it in details. Then recover pleasant memoirs from other episodes. What then were your feelings, impressions? What prevents to feel to you similar feelings now?

3. Try to cause these feelings now and to take a great interest in something. Transfer these feelings from the past on that activity which to you is necessary for executing now. Connect inspiration from last successes with the today's purposes.

4. Write down the impressions, feelings, reasonings. Write the text for auto-suggestion which it will be possible to re-read and support the motivation further.

As soon as Sergey has recollected the successes in the past (a victory on the school Olympic Games, the academic successes in high school, the successful transaction which has brought in recently quite good income), to it it became easier. The melancholy and disappointment have decreased, he has felt inflow of energy, inspiration, a self-trust. Further it took a sheet of paper and has written down following sayings:

• Nobody is won, yet did not recognise itself won.
• Belief in success, huge desire, persistence — compound success.
• I trust in myself.
• I know well, that I wish to reach.
• I will not refuse business at the first failure.
• I will transform failures into a victory.
• I will necessarily become successful.
• Readiness for success — the main secret of its achievement.
• I will make everything, that have conceived.
• the Success depends on my efforts and desire to reach it.
• the Success comes to the one who aspires to it.
• nothing will affect my dream.

To change the relation to errors.

Very important it is positive (with a positive spirit) to concern possible errors. It supports motivation at appropriate level, induces to work over the lacks and weaknesses. The one who does nothing is not mistaken only. Despite of banality of this saying, many people in panic are afraid of possible failures. More often the reason is covered in the early childhood — too severe and authoritative parents severely punishing the slightest childish prank and suppressing any initiative of the child. In the course of time the children's fear before parents can be transformed to fear of punishment from the higher heads. Especially, if the chief «comes across it come from the childhood», very similar to parents from children's memoirs — severe and authoritative. Constantly being afraid to make a mistake, such person becomes passive, completely loses the creative initiative in the professional work. At the same time really active people suppose большее number of errors, but they and is much more often achieve success, than passive people. Not casually many foreign companies financially encourage the workers even for those creative ideas which "have failed". Such relation supports at people high motivation and aspiration constantly to experiment and non-standard to think.

Errors and failures it is not necessary to be frightened; over them it is necessary to work, as they are very useful as a material to self-improvement and stimulus to activity.

1. Reflect and write down the statements which express the positive relation to failures and errors and prospect of their overcoming. You can apply these sayings to support of the motivation.

2. Carefully analyse failure which you have gone through recently (or once earlier). Reflect over ways of their overcoming. Define, what your skills and abilities are insufficiently developed and require perfection. Reflect over methods which will use, working over development of certain skills and abilities.

3. Think up some variant of mottoes which would help you to react to own failures and errors positively. For example: «Errors it is remarkable! I know now, over what to work».

Working over the errors, Sergey has written down:

1. Failures and errors is a good science for this purpose who wishes to develop. Many unsuccessful phone calls? It is not so terrible, after all is over what to work.

2. Errors are useful to my development. Now I know, how it is necessary to speak on the phone how to build conversation, effectively to present myself to possible employers. I also know, what exactly to me is necessary for improving.

3. Start up the previous attempt was unsuccessful, but it has learnt me to much. In the future I will not admit it. I am assured, that having saved up experience of the previous errors, I will necessarily achieve success.

4. I am completely ready to that from 30 phone calls there will be only one successful. And the faster I will type 30 failures, the more likely I will reach the success.

With new forces Sergey has begun to search for work. However to type 30 failures to it and it was not necessary. From 24 phone calls 6 have appeared successful — in 6 places in it have become interested and have invited to interview. Further, from these six in 2 places to Sergey have suggested to sign the contract. One more favourable offer has arrived from personnel agency where he nevertheless has addressed. After short meditations, he has chosen the most suitable variant. So Sergey has managed to overcome itself and has won.

To create a success situation.

Julia (student-first-year student) has laid down for itself the aim — in perfection to master English language. Having been occupied about one month, it has thrown study. Realising necessity of regular employment, it could not organise herself for daily work any more. She has explained failure by the ostensibly bad abilities to languages, and also insufficient will power.

That in perfection to learn a foreign language, it is necessary to work long and persistently, not one year. And to watch the achievements today, it is necessary to find criteria on which it would be possible to define even insignificant advancement to the purpose, even hardly appreciable improvements. When the overall aim is not concretised, when concrete intermediate problems are not painted, to fix changes very difficult. Present, the person persistently studies the whole month English. Forces it is already spent not a little. The weariness has collected. And the desired purpose (knowledge of language) while remains all as far. As a result at it hands fall. After all the person has laid down to itself the aim — to pass 5000 km, and as soon as possible for now has passed only 20. Against an object in view its today's achievements more than are modest. They practically are not visible, is not appreciable any advancement forward. As a result the person does not test anything, except melancholy and disappointment.

And here when it concentrates the attention not on an ultimate goal, and on intermediate problems — then absolutely an another matter. Then the life becomes more cheerful and to work much easier. We will admit, the person has laid down to itself the intermediate aim — today it is necessary to pass five kilometres. Tomorrow five more. The day after tomorrow — still. Has passed today 5 km — the good fellow, receive a candy. The intermediate purpose is reached. For the next day has passed 5 more km — already twice good fellow, the day after tomorrow — already three times etc. the Sum of achievements and successes gradually collects. And together with it the self-esteem and desire to reach большего grows. And this positive luggage stimulates to work further and not to stop halfway.

Even the small success has considerable inducing influence, inspires on activity. Hence, it is very important to create to itself a success situation. If you have planned stages of achievement of the purpose it can be achievement of the first of them. Something from this, that you have planned and have already executed, can and should be worried as the big success.

«The confidential technology» creations of a situation of success can be such:

1. The person is capable to induce to activity not only others, but also itself. When there is no desire to work (but you realise importance has put), dialogue with itself, the belief or the request turned to, help to overcome difficulties of self-organising. Find the best receptions of prompting which in большей to a measure, than others, answer your individuality. Write some variants of self-promptings. With what under the form they will be — sincere requests, безаппеляционными orders, logic arguments, emotional appeals or rough curses — depends on you. Choose from them the best.

2. Break an ultimate goal into a number of the concrete intermediate stages and realise importance of achievement of each of them. Put before itself as much as possible concrete (and real) the purposes and aspire to reach them. List concrete stages of achievement of the purpose.

3. Plan how to achieve a definite purpose (or a separate stage of its achievement). The purpose it is necessary to choose average complexity as achievement of the easy purposes will not be worried as success, and achievement too difficult a lot of time and forces will demand, and often simply it is impossible. You would like to reach what purpose?

4. Define quantitative or quality indicators on which you could fix even insignificant positive shifts in work. For example, improvement of results even on thousand shares already stimulates the sportsman for testifies to advancement forward in sports. In studying of languages by such criterion there can be an increase in an active lexicon etc.

5. Use the best efforts successfully to carry out the put task, to reach at least one of the purposes put by you. Whether you have reached this specific goal? What difficulties to you should be overcome?

6. Do not forget to praise itself that have achieved even small success («What I well done»). The positive emotions connected with achievement of successes, are very important. "Award" itself with something. You for yourselves have prepared what prize?

And what our Julia?

Later, having got down to business seriously, the girl began to convince and ask itself: «Юля, I ask you, cease to idle! Become reasonable, you capable and such clear head! I beg you, work daily over English! You know, that only regular employment will bring results. You the fine fellow and always can find at least hour or so for this important issue. You the present beauty, and will like associates even more when you will seize English».

Further it has developed system of the intermediate purposes which have allowed it to supervise the successes in English studying. Thus the student could overcome the difficulties in self-organising and henceforth daily (instead of incidentally as it was earlier) worked over foreign language perfection.