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The woman in collective or how to become a victim моббинга

Boasting - a fine way to restore against itself colleagues. To brag it is possible very much on - to a miscellaneous. It is not necessary to do it "in a forehead", declaring, that you have perfectly spent days off with the lover or that the husband has presented to you new, the seventh under the account, the car. You not so will understand and will write down … in the little fool. The little fool to be, of course, not so honourable, but may be, that your new collective consists of people tolerant and humane, to fools concerning with understanding.

Try to brag more intellectually, what the dirty trick not so was simple for suspecting! For example, tell, that have broken to itself all head, deliberating whom to give a new cleaner of air. Explain, that it is a gift of the unlucky girlfriend. A cleaner of air to you to what, after all you live in the country.

Here even more thin way to brag, it approaches silent or modest ladies: never simply agree that any simple female complexities are not alien to you. Do not accept participation in discussion of the goods and the prices, health, ways of a weight loss, mutual relations with children or the husband. If the situation does not allow to keep silent, shrug shoulders and distinctly tell something like: "For me it is irrelevant" or "I with it do not have problems" or "do not know, did not face". The main thing - to tell it in time when the office population has finished a circle, and everyone has brought the mite in discussion of a burning problem. During that instant when you could join without effort collective, having confirmed, as anything is not alien to you human - you too can pick up not at once to yourselves a suit, sit at times on a diet, quarrel with the husband, - make a knight's move. Let know to old residents, that you - a being from other world: you such nonsenses do not interest.

Not less effective way to become a hybrid of the outsider and a whipping boy return: complain. On the one hand, envy at times awakes in people of an animal. But with another - people do not love, when on them shift the problems. Therefore if wish to beget in collective, incessantly tell the new acquaintance about what complexities overflow your daily life. Do it with such kind as if the others about a life do not know anything, daily arriving in office directly from the moon.

Besides, associates strongly enough irritate numerous requests to find any "good" doctor for trifling business (to cure a cold, for example). Addressing to the person with such request, you take him unawares: he also does not want, but like should make something for you, after all health questions - a theme in which indifferent is not present. The person incessantly searching for any special doctors, in itself causes rather mixed feelings: to it like it would be possible hardly more than for the rests, after all at it to trouble! To be irritated on such person like it is bad, therefore the irritation is usually saved at associates подспудно. However sooner or later someone the most unrestrained nevertheless will ask you why you constantly search for doctors at office, instead of in help service, a polyclinic or the medical centre.

Also it is possible to complain in всеуслышанье of expensive kindergarten, a careless house manager, rough neighbours, mad drivers and impossible GAI officers. On envious girlfriends, the persuasive mother-in-law and difficult teenagers. On the inattentive husband and its impudent mistress. The main thing that the streamlet did not run low never, and "return" will by all means follow.

Nobody argues that you is the cleverest. But what for it so obviously to show? However, all depends on the purpose which you before yourselves have put. If you and the truth намерены promptly to grow to yourselves the aversion from colleagues is maximum, try to philosophise as much as possible. During production meetings listen to reports and performances of colleagues with the sour person. It is possible to play at this time with the mobile phone (not having switched off a sound) or - in a pointed manner to correct a make-up. Then exact a promise and try to "break" the colleague, leading to each point of its report the counterthesis. Do not forget to explain the aspiration to true corporate benefit - so you will manage to toady to the heads, and it too rather irritates many, especially office old residents. If you the courageous woman also are not afraid to go a breast on an embrasure, it is possible not to wait for the performance end, and to insert the important and valuable remarks is direct on a course of another's report. Than the remark will be cleverer, and the more strongly it will unsettle the unfortunate lecturer, the better. It is an uneasy problem but if you and the truth clever, at you turns out.

Than longer there is a collective in which you (casually and for a short while) has brought, especially it is rallied. The feeling of a collectivism - a piece generally unconscious, but develops it always, everywhere and in any rather long living corporation. "Group we-feelings" - so name social psychologists that sensation of relationship which somewhere at heart unites people long working together. Unwritten rules of behaviour in collective and so-called corporate morals (specific "local" representations of your colleagues that such is good and bad") - those signs which unambiguously speak about presence at the population of your office of feeling of a collectivism.

To ignore collective norms of behaviour is simple and effective enough way to incite against itself colleagues, including the chief. (With the chief a stick do not bend, differently you will simply dismiss, and you will not have time to take pleasure in general aversion, having drunk to the bottom a bowl of their irritation).

For example, an important thing - a dinner. In the amicable and rallied labour collectives employees, as a rule, have dinner together. To sabotage (or to sadden the behaviour) a joint meal - the true way conducting to boycott. If in your firm the kitchen, also prepares the cook, there is enough several times at the maximum congestion of the people loudly to reject any one dish, having declared, something of type: "My astrologist forbids me there are crude cucumbers, as it неэкологично". Wish to strengthen effect - refuse to have dinner at all. It is possible to bring with itself house (is better strongly smelling) meal and to eat it, sitting down on a small distance from other collective.

If employees of firm have chosen for dinners any small restaurant nearby, descend there just once and arrange demonstration performance directly there. To begin with it is possible to show discontent with service. It is simple, as waiters of small restaurants quite often make various oversights. They can submit too long, warm up strongly or poorly, to cool anyhow, to approach not from that party, something to tinkle, брякнуть and if will carry, to drop something, and so on. The main thing - to be attentive, to notice any trifle and to make comments. When the meal will be in the heat, here it is already possible to "have a good time". Basically, any dish can be prepared not how it is necessary, after all, "everyone to his own taste", so your creative open space is vast. If to you has not carried, and your campaign has selected to itself mentally steady personnel, at last it is possible to arrange to all of them present psychological "цыганочку with an exit". Simply without explanations leave a lunch hall in horror, right after that as will try the first dish. Go on street with the deformed person and search there for McDonald's.

Sabotage of joint meals - strong, but not a unique way to poison to itself a life in collective. Look also you will find many sensitive points at your new colleagues. As an example it is possible to offer long unbusinesslike telephone conversations in working hours, a make-up (manicure or a pedicure) behind a desktop and so on.

One more thin enough way of finishing of colleagues to white каления is an inaccurate reference with vital space of office. We will tell, if working zones in a room are accurately divided, try to break on a trifle another's spatial borders by intrusion for their limits. Hang up a dripping umbrella on one hanger, a raincoat - on another, a bag - at the third and look, that will be. The trifle, but operates smoothly: in some days the most patient colleagues will begin to boil even.

Everything, that we offered you before only warm-up. Time for heavy artillery has come. The ideal way to restore against itself all female population of collective - frankly to coquet with its man's population. With everyone by turns. The married man follows two single. The more I will give learns about your victories, the better. Do not forget to put on defiantly is as strongly it is pleasant to men as it is not pleasant to women. The important detail - sharp spirits. The more strongly you will exceed a perfumery dose - the better.

In that case if at your office of men the majority, is better to go on a way of the least resistance and instead of female aversion to concentrate on man's irritation. It is elementary: apply the same coquetry, but simultaneously, instead of it is consecutive. Guess, what it is necessary to make then? Correctly, to lead round all round a finger, pretended to be, that have misunderstood you. After such focus not the good relation of colleagues of a male to you is simply guaranteed. And, discussing you "in a lobby", the most offend will say, that "all was", but as the woman you "so-so". From here also the deep river of female irritation, by the way, will originate: you will kill at once all hares.

Now, having learnt all game rules, you can choose how to build the mutual relations with colleagues depending on you wish to achieve what result. Successes!