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It is a little about jealousy

Generally, all is described and quite formulated for a long time already. There is, for example, in dictionary Ожегова a formulation academic: "Jealousy - painful doubt in someone's fidelity and love". And there is at William Shakespeare a formula poetic: "About, jealousy, the sharp-clawed animal scraping heart!" So like everything, is enough. For the man. But not for the woman. Because it and it always and in all - and in jealousy especially - different.

The man happens, basically, and is unjealous. The woman does not happen is unjealous-basically. The man is jealous those whom loves. The woman is jealous all. The woman can love the husband, and can and not love at all it, but let only this husband will try заглядеться on other woman - a little to it will not seem! To the woman it can be absolutely indifferent it with - трудник, but, having noticed its attention to another, let too it is perfect to it to the indifferent employee, the woman will not be kept from an is jealous-venomous remark. And let to the woman absolutely to spit on the casual neighbour in any feast, to it is all the same absolutely intolerable to hear compliments which it releases to other casual neigbour.
For clearness we will return to the dictionary formulation about "jealousy-painful doubt in fidelity..." By the way, it is curious: jealousy - beliefs-nost. Only two letters, and from their shift, unlike shift of places composed, the sum very much even changes. But I about other. If it is absolutely frank, the essence female is not so much "painful doubts" in fidelity storage, how many in property preservation. Small children, terribly being jealous all successively - mum, the daddy, a cat, a toy, - cry: "It is my mum! It is my toy!"
Here and the woman not so that is important, we love or we do not love a subject of its jealousy, as that it - a subject of its property. And - hands off mine!
Let's not hold back and of whom are jealous. The man is jealous only of other man or as make jokes about absolutely mad ревнивцев, to any cable column. And the woman is jealous not only of other woman, but also to the man, and besides a column, and to set of objects - both animated, and absolutely inanimate. It is jealous of friends to the man - "These drunks to you more expensively me!", to hockey - "This nasty washer at you instead of heart!", to a dog - "you are fast and in bed will settle with this rate!".
Further. If the man is jealous on quite concrete, let sometimes and erroneous, to an occasion, the woman on concrete, both on abstract, and on in general fantastic, that is generated by its irrepressible imagination. It is necessary to the man to look only at the counter woman, it is necessary to it to smile to the saleswoman... No, it the man does not need to do all categorically! An example. The man and the woman at a concert of the singer. He admires: "What at it a magnificent contralto!" She is indignant: "of People would feel ashamed, the debauchee!" It is a joke. No, not about dense bad manners. And about wild female jealousy. And in this question at the woman and the man-continuous misunderstanding and недопонимания.
"I saw, how you looked at it!" - the woman declares. And the man is perplexed: well as so he looked, usually looked, eyes... "I know, that at you on mind!" - the woman groans. And the man does not understand: well such at it on mind, anything at it such on mind is not present, except the mind...
"I feel, that at you with it!" - the woman sobs. And the man does not think: well such at it with it, anything at it with it such that it would be desirable...
We recognise - the woman something sees, much knows and feels even more. This devil's scent from the woman not to take away. Though, of course, it would be necessary. However, this female advantage at times turns around a lack playing with the woman a malicious joke. After all the man - a being such trustful, so easily inspired. And when the woman repeats to it, that it pays special attention to any lady, the man is obedient reflects: can be, the wise woman of the right, and, maybe, that lady indeed deserves its attention, and, maybe, it is necessary to it to give this attention... Also gives.
Certainly, jealousy of jealousy рознь. Being jealous the colleague, the woman will be limited to destructive causticities, being jealous the husband to fishing, it will manage nonlethal scandal, being jealous of the neigbour in municipal apartment, will show a bit of generosity on a salt package in соседкин a borsch. But jealousy of the present thief it is valid the beloved can blow up somehow: from silent tears and loud hysterics to the tragical decision to take and finish - either with itself, or with the competitor, or, that is much more reasonable, with artful изменщиком. Thus in protection of the woman - and I always bravely support this defenceless creation - it is necessary to recognise: if it goes on the tragical action, only on incontestable to a change fact in evidence. Take though Emma Bovari, though the Ancient Greek Medea, though Central Russian lady Makbet of Mtsensky district. Anywhere - neither in art, nor in a life - we will not find a case when the woman would manage the justice, not having proofs of an occasion to jealousy, how moor Othello with innocent голубкой Дездемоной has arrived svrfe-pyj. But that from this Othello to take: a trouble after all not that the moor, and that the muzhik...