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Lady Boss and the man

To cease to be the wife of the husband

Presently it is a lot of women for various reasons cannot be arranged on a permanent job with the good salary and houses on earned by the husband or adult children money are compelled to sit. Certainly, such state of affairs cannot please the woman who aspires to self-realisation and material independence.

About what independence there can be a speech when the husband of the woman owns large business?! Any, even a highly paid post will not help the woman to catch up with the elect in a monetary question. But unless it is necessary for it? Unless she needs to earn millions? At all is not present!

The wages hardly above an average level suffice woman-housewife, interesting employment and constant dialogue. Already fact of reception of any sum on which it is possible to live adequately month, changes a self-estimation of the woman and positively influences its relations with the spouse. It any more the slave in a harem, and an independent member of a society with the free schedule, but pleasant payment.

First time the husband will dissuade you from attempts to find work. Most likely, to you it will be in detail explained, why at you it will turn out nothing and that you in vain will waste time. It is surprising, as its opinion on you for years of a joint life has changed! He considers you as the weak, innocent girl who should be preserved against burdens of a usual life. You - separately, a human life with its pleasant temptations - separately.

Words to prove to the man the solvency it is impossible. Start to operate! Read the modern literature on business, leadership psychology, to negotiations and sales. It is even better to pass any to a course on improvement of professional skill, finding of a new trade, development of a computer drawing or a foreign language.

The most competent investment of money is an investment in itself. Your health, knowledge, skills and useful acquaintances remain with you for ever! And the husband, unfortunately, sometimes - the phenomenon time. And how many your marriage will last: the year, five, ten, or for the rest of the life - nobody can foresee. All flows, all changes …

It is healthy to be trained on courses in the good centre and to be arranged for decent work! However, here us can trap at once two "but". "But" the first - the woman has no sufficient sum or time to pass courses. "But" the second - the woman is compelled to sit at home practically all time. The reasons here can be different: the small child, illness own or the loved one, a habit to be at home, absence of desire to go anywhere every day.

What to do, if the husband does not allow to spend money for training? If he considers it unreasonable. After all when the woman sits at home and is engaged only in an economy, it does not have possibility with someone to get acquainted and get an extramarital affair. Because of jealousy the man often aspires to lock the woman of the house, not to allow it to be engaged in itself and самореализоваться.

Think, to whom it is favourable first of all? The man of the house wait, it is always pure also a dinner from three dishes, and the woman is financially dependent, new acquaintances in her life are possible only on road to shop and back or at meeting of parents at school. In due course the woman grows stout, grows ugly, ceases to look after itself. A unique way it to lose - to expel under own initiative. The husband in general can to worry, that without his permission to the wife there will be something interesting.

The wife is mother of children, the keeper of a home. So the majority of men argues. And even if you go to a sports hall, put on each season in boutiques, have a rest on SPA-resorts at the expense of the husband, you remain the helpless silly fellow who without it will be gone in this severe world.

Five years ago you worked or had the business, but time has left, and last experience any more has no value. And, of course, you judge today, instead of recollect, how ten years ago you were the manager of a beauty salon in the centre of Moscow and were familiar with all stars of a platform. And on a scene already absolutely other stars light public. It is a life essence in general. Important, than you are occupied today, instead of your last victories or the future successes. Yesterday became a history part, and tomorrow it is foggy and under the big question. Only being engaged in something in the present, you have the right to swing the rights in a family nest and to apply for independence.

The man appreciates only that woman whom it can easily lose. And to lose that completely belongs to you and from you depends, it is practically impossible. Be independent and interesting to men! Let every day you presents with compliments from unfamiliar men and the broken hearts!