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Family misfortune of the business woman

In any happy family two basic roles necessarily should be carried out: maintenance of internal and external interactions. Internal interactions include, on the one hand, life conducting, with another – creation of tradition of related relations between all members of a family and formation of house, family atmosphere. External interactions mean search of resources and the decision of strategic questions: habitation, the finance and other.

The man is engaged in traditionally external questions, and intrafamily interactions are adjusted by the woman. However in case of the business woman such division of roles is broken: she focuses the attention on external relations and any more does not deal with intrafamily problems. In it a principal cause of disorders in a family of the business woman. The decision of a problem idle time – it is necessary to answer a question only: who and how will be engaged now in family internal affairs?

The most obvious answer: the man. Really: if the woman carries out "man's" functions why the man not to carry out "female"? Many think herein, from what thoughts and the phenomenon of the man-domohozjaina was born. Examples happy (at least outwardly) families with such division of roles regularly appear in a press. Whether however so all is simple?

Far not any man will agree on such family. After all in it not it, and the woman will define family strategy, to solve key questions of the budget – in general, to carry out functions of the head of the family. Besides, performance of intrafamily functions demands of some the qualities, which characters basically for women and seldom meet at men: многозадачность (children-cleaning-cooking simultaneously), sociability (children eternally stir and demand attention), intuitive understanding of psychology (all should be reconciled, creating family unity).

In general, the man-domohozjain is a special type of the person. And precisely such you will not find among successful (read: arrogant, active, aggressive) people. More likely it is soft and even is amorphous.

And now let's recollect a known pray of the monk-Dominican and we will consider in this logic our business woman. At it it is full of forces to change everything, that only it is possible. And it is no wonder – on that it and the business woman. Very big problems at it with patience that it is quiet and with advantage to perceive that it cannot change. But here with what at the majority of business women really serious problems – so it with wisdom to distinguish the first from the second.

What moves the woman at a choice of the man?, whether it is worthy to divide with it a bed and the family centre. And soft and silent домохозяина poorly what lady will count worthy itself favourite. To it submit strong and self-assured.

So anything surprising, that actually so is families where the man and the woman vary roles a little. The man, capable to carry out "female" roles – in itself extremely rare fruit. The strong woman understanding importance for of the soft man – also a copy a little extended. And that they also have successfully met and have created a family – so it in general unique good luck.

More widespread variant of a family arises, if the strong woman finds to itself the strong man, but the patience at least suffices it not to try to retrain it in домохозяина. In such situation usually there is "a free family". Each of spouses is engaged in the career (i.e. carries out a "man's" role), and anybody should nothing to anybody.

But after all without a "female" role of a family will not be! Therefore such family employs the housewife: and in the house an order, and from career it is not necessary to come off. When there are children – employ the nurse: and with children too there are no problems (though what there will be at evolved children a relation to practically another's parents for them is still a question). And for maintenance of bed happiness both spouses quite often invite "experts from the party" – the mistress or the lover. Because when people do not have time for a family, whence at them time against each other undertakes?

Thus "the free family" solves a problem of shortage of a "female" role, giving all missing functions on outsourcing.

But more often at the business woman does not suffice wisdom to choose to itself the suitable man, patience to reconcile to the man improper. As a result also there are classical modern families. Both spouses are engaged in career. Everyone tries to become the head of the family. Like would divide among themselves house duties, and the house like it is well-groomed. But here on children of forces suffices nobody, and get rid of their coma попадя. And as harmony in a family is not present, seek it elsewhere, in beds of mistresses and lovers. And both.

As a conclusion. It turns out, that disorder of private life of the business woman – a problem system and practically not solved. The reason of it is in that, as the man, and the woman are purely biologically adapted for performance of quite concrete roles in a family. Well and the modern public system, taking away women from a family, does not offer anything constructive in exchange.