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How to accustom the man to help on the house

In order to avoid different interpretations it is necessary to notice, that the following is meant homework in given article: cleaning, cooking, washing, ware washing, etc. Till a birth of children in many families a problem of house duties is not necessary so sharply, as after occurrence of children. With increase in a family of homework becomes much more, and its basic part to lay down on female shoulders. All anything if the woman was engaged only in the house, but the majority of women combines work and the house.

On the average working woman carries out on the house in 2 times of more work, than the man, such woman is subject to uneasiness, causeless anxiety, mood differences.

The interesting facts:

Ways which will help you to achieve from the man of the help in homework.

1. "An explanation - mother of the doctrine". Probably, this way most of all will approach people only beginning a joint life though also all the rests should try. The majority of men lives by such principle "Has broken - repair, has not broken - wait, while will break". Therefore to the majority of men not to understand, that you are irritated with an easy touch of a dust on regiments and some crumbs on a carpet. While you wait from them for the help, they can not guess at all, that time of cleaning of the house has come. Therefore will make all efforts to explain to the man that "the pure house" means for you. Thus it is not necessary to express it in the form of cavils, it humiliates you personally and irritates that on whom is directed. You can make the list on a paper has put, which you would want, that the man carried out on the house, it will make its problem of more clear. Both you, and he will see real results of its help.

2. Learn the man to perform work as you wish that. Some men really have no concept how to make well this or that work on the house, therefore show to the man as you want that this or that activity was carried out.

3. Encouragement, but not censure. We often do not notice, how we discourage men to help us because instead of encouraging their tender word, we start to criticise, that they and that do not so, and another not этак. Therefore be defined or all of you do, or shut eyes to small lacks of the executed work.

4. Motivation. If the man has any preferences in homework, give it the option.

5. Time distribution. If you manage to distribute house affairs on all week, at you and at the husband to be released more time for days off. And, probably, that your man can render to you to more help on the house so among a week it can make more than on days off.

6. Employ the servant. If you are allowed by means, you can avoid an aforementioned problem, having employed the servant or having bought home appliances, somehow the dishwasher, etc.

7. Forget sometimes about cares on the house. At least once a month spend evening together as you of it did before you had children and cares of the house. It will help you to keep emotional affinity as if the emotional affinity between the man and the woman is lost, the woman starts to go in cycles in homework, then that the husband does not help it that leads still большей to emotional dissociation.