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Family and children

If you have decided to adopt the kid

If you have decided to adopt the kid

Each person, in such situation, is guided by different motives. Someone very much wishes to become parents, but physiologically is not able to do it; someone wishes to replace the lost child; someone wishes to diversify the life thus. There is a category of the people, wishing to be «as all» and from these reasons of taking children from children's homes; is such which for the account of orphans wish to solve material and housing problems.

At last, there is a category of people which simply wish to help the unfortunate children who have remained without parental heat and caress. As a rule, last category the smallest, but among it practically there are no cases отказников, that is such parents will not return the child in the house of the baby only because it "has not approached" them or has not justified expectations.

You would not be guided by what motive, it is necessary to consider all very carefully. After all small children are not toys with which it is possible to be lost and if they have not liked to give back. Such children appear betrayed twice, and from such psychological trauma it will be very heavy to them to recover in the future.

Besides the child is not only big responsibility, but also the big material expenses. And newly made parents too should be ready to it. Besides often there is a situation when people try to stick together already collapsing family the child. As practice shows, such motive in a root is incorrect. Very often such family does not stand additional test, and business goes to divorce. In that case reception children most of all suffer. After divorce they appear are not necessary neither to the new daddy, nor mum.

Before adoption it is necessary to estimate soberly the material possibilities, a condition of the health, possibility of the help from relatives. It is necessary to consider, that if you take the baby some illnesses cannot be diagnosed at such age. Whether you will be ready to what the child can appear the patient? What will be your reaction in that case?

It is impossible to dismiss and the guarded relation of associates to reception children and presence of "well-wishers" which can open in the future the truth to the reception child.

If, having weighed all pro's and con's, you all the same have dared at adoption, still it is necessary to you a choice of age of the child which you wish to adopt. About an adoption minus in infancy it has been told above. It is possible to carry that you start to form the person of the child practically from zero To pluses. And in this case only from you depends, what will be its character and intellectual development. Having decided to adopt the child of the second half of the year of a life, it is necessary to consider, that it can have such diagnosis, as a delay of psychospeech development. In itself this diagnosis is not terrible and caused by that the vital space of the child in children's home is limited by two - three rooms, and there is it more often in an arena. To be engaged individually with each child the personnel not in forces because of a considerable quantity of children. In the beginning it can lag behind the "house" contemporaries, but your love, the understanding and caress will help it to catch up and even to overtake children who since a birth have grown in the loving environment.

In general successful adaptation of the reception child in a new family depends on, whether you will accept it such what it is: with its character, merits and demerits. It is not necessary to spend the forces only for overcoming as it seems to you, negative character traits of the child. Help it to develop with itself that best is better, that in it it is put in pawn by the nature.

If you in a family already have a child very important to get its support in adoption process, to prevent children's jealousy and to listen to its opinion in this question. It is necessary to help for children to come into contact and to try to give to them an equal share of attention.

Such serious step to your life as adoption, should become only after all-round studying of a situation, acceptance of the common decision of mum, the daddy who are already available the child and near relations, and, the most important thing, after comprehension of huge responsibility which you thereby incur.