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Family and children

Birth of the child. The end to career?

Choice for you …

Look back!

Your life has turned to a never-ending marathon. All planned days follow from low-calorie breakfasts and practically every minute confirm your own axiom, that the life has gone right!

But in one fine day you start to admire on small neighbour's карапузов, and understand, that you too would like to become mother. It would be desirable and is pricked! You cannot choose in any way, that for you it is more important: to interrupt career and to take pleasure in a new arising life, or it is a little more to wait, it is a little more to earn money, it is a little more to equip the apartment. And such it is "a little more" to become every day more and more.

It definitively knocks you down and places other priorities, crossing out earlier thought over plans. You start to rush about in yourself and, to say to yourself, that yet all is ready. And time goes! You try to think over and count all, but it is simply impossible! Necessarily there will be any pebble which will not be entered in your pyramid. Or mum, to the extent of the employment, cannot look for the kid, or the husband at the wrong time will decide to change a job, or to you will offer increase of which you so long dreamt.

In one fine day my crossroads became for me deadlock! It was necessary not only be in time to come to the senses from stunning news, but also hastily to make the decision on which the life depended, and not one! One road conducted to a career ladder, and another in maternity home!

I cannot understand till now, why I have quickly replaced far-reaching plans into place on a sofa? Why I for that moment was not excited with my financial condition? Time has Perhaps, come to become high-grade and happy? Probably, I for that moment accurately knew, that I want from a life!

If also you could on all internal questions is realised and categorically answer "Yes", means, career will easily be replaced by mission of mother. Means, the life will enter into a new coil which promises to be very sated and interesting. The main thing, remember, that no leather armchair will replace to you a cradle of the kid!

If your work means for you everything, and you can is frank to admit that you feel rather happy, sitting on the workplace. You can tell, that work gives you pleasure and self-sufficiency. You are rather happy also are going to change nothing, except a computer mouse on the table, and shudder at thought, on motherhood? Then this article is counter-indicative to you, as except irritation it to you will bring nothing! But if you nevertheless doubt, continue to read!

The exit is always …

It in days of our grandmothers the maternity leave was reduced by two months on which termination newly made mummies should return on the workplaces! And today there is all necessary that the kid was born. All conditions and at the state level, and at business level are created. There are firms which can fill under the first requirement your house with necessary quantity of nurses, governesses, servants. It is possible even to employ the coming father for the kid if you have found common language with the present father of the child. There would be a desire to pay similar services.

All it if you madly love children, and thus are the uncompromising careerist who is not representing out of work, and not wishing to replace image of the business woman with an image of the woman with a carriage!

If you have made definitive decision to leave for a while to career, you should be ready to that sooner or later you can have a small depression. Not each woman is capable to stop all relations with world around, not having regretted about it during the most improper moment.

To avoid depression it is necessary for to understand something.

It is not necessary to lose contacts to an external world completely. It is not necessary to veil windows of the apartment children's diapers. Certainly, during this period there is nothing more important you and your child, but also to break off all contacts to world around silly! It is necessary to understand, that with a birth of the kid your life not to change, and will be filled!

On the one hand you, as though anew are born and will live the most important, the life moments. On the other hand, a birth of the child it for what you created and equipped the life.

The unpleasant moments can be avoided!

Many women are convinced, that with a birth of the kid the maiden fine-moulded figure for ever remains in memory! Certainly, the desire to be made, demands certain efforts over itself. Believe, to be engaged in self-improvement much better, than daily to degrade, sitting in front of the TV with a pack of chips.

However, many men consider, that the pregnant woman, in itself, is very sexual! If the thought that after pregnancy you can turn in динозаврика, nevertheless stops you, and you cease to think of possibility to join "pregnant" numbers your excitements can be dispelled!

First, you should know, that newly made mummy should keep to a diet, till a birth of the kid. Cigarettes are excluded from a diet, sharp, bitter, chocolate, marinades and т д alcohol. My doctor, for example, has made for me such diet thanks to which my small daughter did not test any discomfort at night, during wakefulness. And I, in turn, did not feel hunger. I was stimulated with thought that I do not want that I кроха suffered from gripes and looked, as a fly agaric hat! During pregnancy and feeding I have essentially grown thin and have got prettier! So speak!

Secondly, you should not worry concerning breast deformation. It is necessary to watch that it did not remain without support from the very beginning simply. I know mummies who by nature possessed the worthy sizes of a breast, and could even look amazing after a birth of two children!

Thirdly, muscles of young mummy constantly are in a tone. Bring, put, move, change, bath, shake, do not allow to you to relax. You it is constant something are occupied also time for cellulitis cultivation practically does not remain. If you have a nurse who does for you all above written, means, you presume to find time to be engaged in aerobics, fitness, training apparatus, dances, to descend in pool.

Figure, career, housing and material conditions it only an excuse by which you are justified before yourself and a society.

Conclusion …

It is now very fashionable to be the succeeding lady! Faultless career thanks to which you presume to put up to yourself money in the child: the best garden, the most advanced school, study abroad. It is all, of course, remarkably, whether but this main thing? Many mums complain, that see children because of strong employment a little. They find the separate periods of a life of the child! And their children, become in the course of time very understanding, and replace mums with grandmothers, aunts, nurses. Between children and parents the most important touch is lost. Communication which cannot be earned! And only then you understand, that in vain you all life worked! After all all most important thing remains somewhere behind the back!