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Education of children: we choose the nurse

Imagine, that you urgently needed the nurse. Where it is this kind and appeasable woman who will remove from you set of cares, – it is necessary to search? And how to distinguish Mary Poppins from садистки фрекен the Side? That speak, and first of all such questions disturb each woman combining a family and work.

Certainly, in search of ideal Mary Poppins's similarity it is possible to throw in the beginning a call on acquaintances. It is probable, that somebody from them and will have on a sign a person, ready to incur education of your children, and also housekeeping conducting. That this unknown to you while the lady was satisfied not with the greatest salary would be thus completely not bad also and was mentally healthy (that during our mad time happens seldom enough).

If this variant for any reasons disappears, try not to go into extremes and, having bought, for example, the newspaper «From hands in hands» to start to choose the suitable person. This variant will not approach, even if you consider yourselves as so reckless person to entrust children absolutely unknown to you to the person. And though such nurses will necessarily bring with themselves the necessary recommendations, but to what they to you if you do not know who them, these recommendations, gave to them?

It is possible, certainly, to go further, having invited the nurse under the announcement in the house then to address in any agency on «protection of your kid» (so they of name), and those in turn will establish in your house writing down espionage chambers (as a rule, in those places where the nurse first of all should be: on kitchen, in a nursery, in a bathroom). To you will learn not gratis, whether beat your kid in your absence only that that unintentionally has overturned something, whether push violently in your resisting child I go and so on. Thus, you can employ the nurse directly from street and in the shortest terms to understand, whether it is necessary to deal with it or not. Besides psychologists of agency, having seen the finished shooting material will necessarily give you all necessary recommendations about the given nominee of the nurse: to leave to you it or in the shortest terms to leave it. However be ready to that such service costs not too cheaply. And besides instead of one efforts you will have a set of others. And the horse-radish of a radish is not more sweet.

There is also other variant – for example, to address in agency on personnel selection. Be assured that of their list all nurses – carefully checked up people. It means, that all of them not судимы, are practically healthy for all hundred percent, have necessary education (and in some cases, even a little). Moreover, in similar sorts agencies necessarily communicate with the candidate for nurses psychologists, sometimes it necessary courses in respect of care of the child or developing games (including computer) suggest even to pass. However it will manage to you much more expensively.

In any case, having conceived to invite to itself in the house the nurse, be defined with that, on what you nevertheless should pay the attention first of all: on its qualification, the relation to children, an operational experience or something other, not less important. Further, take to itself for a rule to estimate the pretender in nurses not only on emotions, but also the separate facts. Do not hesitate to ask and there and then to check told – doubt as you understand, here are not pertinent.

After you have found at last «» as it seems to you, the nurse, accurately designate before it that circle of problems which you intend to solve with its help. In order to avoid the further possible misunderstanding discuss literally all details, including, certainly, the schedule of work and payment for the after-hour.

It is desirable to take the nurse on any small trial period and in case to you or your child the nurse has had, as they say, "not to liking", be not afraid to speak at once about it to the new working woman or immediately to hand over it calculation. But if to you with the nurse has very much carried and from different directions it is recommended to you to pray only on it, do not relax and continue to supervise its actions. It assumes not only punishment, but also encouragement. In this case, I dare to assure you, and the nurse from you it will be simple without mind.

Besides, in search of the good nurse and be ready to, that:

To accept in the family of the new person and thus not to try to seem better, than you are actually;

It is obligatory to say to the nurse that in it does not suit you, instead of to do to it any semihints which it can be and not in a condition understand. In it you will be less irritable, and the nurse will seem to you of more ingenious;

To rebuke the nurse in the event that it instead of only looking after the child (as you of that asked), and has washed, and a dinner has prepared, and has cleaned in apartment. First, it will be reflected in quality of supervision for the child, and secondly, be ready to that sooner or later, but such nurse will necessarily demand from you payment for additional service which basically and was not necessary to you;

The nurse can "outgrow" in due course in your good girlfriend and then you immediately should make a choice: either the nurse, or the girlfriend. Because in practice these two concepts are absolutely not compatible. Therefore, if the person in большей degrees suits you as the nurse, do not break a distance not to mix a role. If you wish it to leave as the heart-felt girlfriend, search for a new nominee on its place.