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Conversation art

Conversation, conversation are fruitful when you "give" as much, how many "take", that, of course, happens far not always. Often there are the people occupied only with self and consequently saying before interlocutor of tiresome speech.

Be afraid, as fire, such role - differently you will avoid. That it does not happen, adhere to a simple rule: "Stop and think".

From here necessity of a pause for conversation follows. It is not necessary to be afraid of it. She allows to "recover the breath, think, look at the interlocutor and to see more distinctly its reaction and to allow to it to express. And it, as a matter of fact, should be more important for you, than your own words for that you speak, to you and so it is already known, and from it it is possible to learn new and useful.

The habit at first to think, and then to speak will save you from many awkward situations in conversation. Most frequent of them arises, when one of interlocutors begins conversation on a favourite theme, for example, about professional problems or own children, not assuming, whether interestingly it is to another. Therefore ask more often: "And how you think?".

Such questions ("And how you think?") are useful always, including in the conversation beginning when the mutually acceptable theme of conversation is searched.

It is especially important at the first meeting with the person about which we do not know. In this case it is necessary to mention one for another some themes, looking on reaction and interest of the interlocutor and setting it different questions. It is possible to show the initiative and to tell about own employment, impressions or intentions, - for example, about read article or the history which have happened with your dog. Listening to the person talking to you, try to like its interests, set the questions arising at you at its story that will give it feeling of "audience" and will inspire.

In an ideal you should "merge" as though with it, that will give remarkable feeling of unity and will enrich your dialogue. Rather important reception of adjustment of contact is possibility to ask for suggestions - on any question. It almost always leads to success for gives to the interlocutor feeling of the importance. On the other hand, it is not necessary to avoid that, able to cause disagreements or dispute. A sure version here - a policy. Only remember a step and that in political disputes all always remain at the opinions.

And обоюдоприятным reception compliments are remarkable.

Any person has advantages, and everyone is to some extent vain. Therefore praise people with whom deal, and more often. Sincerely, certainly. The result will be remarkable. To you will start to smile from afar when you will not have time to open yet a mouth for a greeting. A compliment in the address answer, that to you it is pleasant, and you appreciate the kind relation to. But do not coquet and do not challenge a praise what it concerned.

If have, let us assume, praised your new suit, it is not necessary to answer: "Well, that you, it cheap, costs only one and a half тыщи, and quality not the best". It is necessary to tell: "I Thank you" or: "I am glad, that it was pleasant to you". As to expressions opposite to compliments and property praises - pricks "," hairpins ", spiteful remarks etc. they contradict etiquette and are inadmissible in dialogue. Here it is necessary to be guided by a proverb:" If you can not tell anything good, keep silent "is better. And it concerns not only people participating in conversation. Do not gossip and do not talk scandal, for it speaks badly only about you.

If you follow good form laws will never express the opinion categorically, and, getting into dispute, will speak: "it seems To me, that...", avoiding type phrases: "Is not present, it is absolutely incorrect!" And to it similar which, as a matter of fact, accuse the interlocutor of lie. If its opinion is absolutely unacceptable for you, it is necessary to change the subject somewhat quicker conversation, not subjecting itself to risk to break. If no compromise discussion is impossible, keep silence is better. But if another's and not absolutely habitual or comprehensible point of view has interested you, participate in discussion - provided that you own polemic art. That is be able to state the position easy, without irritation and an unnecessary heat.

In that case, dispute can become fine means of sharpening of the intelligence and the most interesting pastime. And if at you weak nerves also are not present endurance - avoid disputes and discussions not to make enemies. Step elements is a taboo on conversations, questions and the remarks touching "sick" places of people. One young man has offered the elderly lady the book about Japan in which schemes of massage for smoothing of wrinkles have been resulted, and has shown this section especially, having added, that it also could be useful for it. Thus he at all did not wish it to offend but only to offer the useful. But it is possible to imagine, what result was!

Here cases when national advantage of the person can be touched adjoin. How it is necessary to arrive, if at you someone affords offensive remarks in relation to any social or an ethnic group, race or the separate person? Whether it is necessary to say, that such statements are absolutely inadmissible, and you should declare it directly and unambiguously, and then to leave. If you are not so strongly revolted, can ask to change the subject of conversation.

There is a set of nuances of the dialogue which directly has been not connected with a theme of conversation and the relation of interlocutors to each other, but also defining "quality" of dialogue. It is manner to behave - i.e. ability to go, stand, find the place to hands and feet.

- Do not approach too close to the interlocutor, and do not touch it even during the most brisk conversation. During conversation do not put in a mouth a match, a pencil or, especially, a toothpick. Before to start to speak, take out from a mouth a tube, a cigarette or a cigar.

- Women should sit down on a skirt, instead of lift it before sitting down.

- The man does not remove a jacket if it is not offered to it. And never removes, if it carries braces.

- Not to look at the interlocutor means to be impolite in relation to it. But it is not necessary and to consider it importunately or to stick a sight.

- Communication with the interlocutor support gesture, a short sight or a head nod.

- To have something in common with someone have published, to start talking to the visitor sitting on other to a table edge, - a sign of bad education, especially if the man starts talking to the woman, younger with the senior, the subordinate with the chief, etc.

- In the company do not whistle and do not sing.

- Smile to the interlocutor.

- Do not laugh too long and loudly, especially at misses of others or own jokes.

Communicate on health, try to do it easy, beautifully and correctly.